I only have one thing to say ...
Why don't you do a little investigation?
Let's say that for 3 months, 1 year ... at each of your meetings with your friends, with your family, your relatives ... wouldn't you ask the question: "Have you suffered sexual violence? Do you know someone? one who suffered from it? ".
I think it would be a good start to break this taboo of incest, rape ... Don't you think so?
It is time for this screed of lead and silence to be lifted, right?
Ask your wife, your husband, your sister, your brother, your mother, your father, your uncles and aunts, your grandparents, your cousins, cousins, friends, girlfriends, coworkers ...
For those who are skeptical: it will be a good way to find out if we lie, we increase the numbers, we exaggerate!
For those who are victims: you will no longer be alone, will no longer have the impression of being alone!
What better way to understand than to act, to confront yourself?
At worst, what do you risk? A little blank in the conversation, surprised looks ... If no one wants to talk about it, don't worry, they will quickly find another subject to broach! And you will see if nobody comes to see you on the sly to say what he or she never dared to say ...
For whom is it the most unbearable?
The person who hears about it for the first time in their life and whose beautiful caring world becomes a little less beautiful but will be able to move on 5 minutes later and forget everything? Or the victim to whom these words "it's unbearable to hear", "I can't, it's too hard for me" are going to be yet another way of silencing?
I think it's important that society, people in general, stop using these words and phrases because they are doing TOO MUCH damage !!!
What IS painful is being raped, betrayed, being abused. This is painful!
Saying doesn't hurt. It is living it that hurts or having to keep it quiet and hide it.
Hearing only hurts if we refuse and fight against these obvious facts ... Because it calls for a change in us, a questioning, an inner study to understand why we fight so fiercely ... It brings us back to our own child wounded interior ... Maybe it's time to listen to him and talk to him?
A person who listens, even with empathy, will never really put themselves in the victim's shoes. He will not know the fear and the heart which squeezes, the trippes which are knotted, he will not know the terror, he will not know what it feels like to feel his death coming and not be able to do anything to prevent it, he will not know what it is like to feel his death coming. will not know the physical and emotional pain ... A person who listens is going to be sad, shocked or angry. That's all. So the question is why being sad, angry, or shocked at things that ARE sad, shocking, and angry with you is unbearable?
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