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Writer's pictureLeelah

18/07/2020 Série "I may destroy you"



It is a series of one season and 12 episodes. You can see it on Amazon prime. For the moment, only 6 episodes have been broadcast, I think that in September all the episodes will be put online. You can sign up for a free month trial on Amazon Prime, so if you want to watch it, subscribe in September ...

I looked at it, so I'll give you back.

I find this series very well done and really very very informative! I therefore strongly encourage you to watch it !!!


It is very well done because for once, the rapes are seen not from the point of view of the rapist but through the eyes of the victim. In all the films, or the vast majority in any case, when a rape takes place, we see the face of the victim, the body of the victim ... In this series, the camera films as if we were the victim, we see what she sees, we are immersed in his feelings, we can better understand for example that a victim remembers with precision an aspect of the ceiling, a grain on the carpet, the sounds heard during the rape and words of the aggressor are very well transcribed such that they can "come back to memory" in the head of the victim ... Because the camera focuses on the feelings of the victim, what she is looking at ... When the victim has flashes of dissociative memory, the camera reproduces it well, the astonishment, the depersonalization, the derealization are very very well reproduced on the screen! Dissociative amnesia is very well approached and described. This series is very accurate in explaining and understanding the mechanisms that go on in the victim's brain during and after rape.

Another interesting thing is that several people are raped so you can see how men or women react. We see how they are treated by the police according to the sex of the victim (can a man be a victim of rape?), How sexual orientations can be factors of discrimination by the police ...


It is also very informative because this series is disturbing, extremely disturbing!

It touches on many points of the culture of rape which is pervasive in our society. It will probably make you uncomfortable at times.

Me, she shocked and questioned me many times. By being a rape victim myself, by having come a long way, learned to understand and know the mechanisms, the path by which the victims pass, certain aspects of the film disturbed me and highlighted how much I had me also this rape culture still inked in me!

The heroine of the film does a lot of drugs, has multiple partners, her life is disjointed, she has links with drug dealers, friends who practice swingers, have orgy, a homosexual friend who accepts to be watched when he has intercourse, she multiplies the parties with excessive alcohol consumption ...


All this is very disturbing and allows us to see our gray areas and to see in ourselves, to question ourselves internally on our conception of rape ... What is rape for us?


Is the fact that she drank and was out late at night, was drugged an aggravating circumstance of the rape or is it considered that the victim "sought" her? A man who accepts to be watched by another during sex and then is raped afterwards is he the victim of rape or is it his fault because he registered on a dating site access only on the "sex for a night" with a stranger? A victim who does not remember in detail, who finds it difficult to qualify her experience as rape, who wants to be recognized and heard but who hides and flees at other times, is she a storyteller or a liar? Is it rape when a partner removes their condom during intercourse without warning or asking permission? A victim who uses drugs or drinks a lot after being raped, who behaves self-destructively afterwards, as a friend or relative how to react and help? How not to get angry with these behaviors common to many victims? How to understand and support the victim in his path of reconstruction and repair and not say the famous phrase "move on" or "you like to be a victim, you feed on your suffering", "you don't want to be get out" ? The fact that the victim consumes drugs or alcohol, knowing that the victim has an entourage and past behaviors that are questionable on the moral level and the decency in society does it make her a real victim in our eyes or a on the contrary, do we have an instinctive negative judgment about it? Does justice have the right to take into account the history of the victim, to observe with a magnifying glass her behavior and her past "morality" to decide if she "deserves" to go to court and that her rapist be brought to justice? Should it be part of the debate as to whether the rapist is or is not guilty of rape?


In which case for us, rape IS rape? In which case for us, the victim is a victim or is guilty, "sought" "caused" this rape?



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